How does your emotional intelligence play in your life?

The difference between emotional and intelligence testing is worlds apart. Does one have to do with the other and why should I care.

Intelligence quotient or IQ for short measures your ability to reason logically, solve math problems, or putting words together. Many case studies have been implemented to find out if a high IQ gives somebody a better chance at a successful life.  Numerous studies suggest that having a high IQ over an average intelligence score does not give those higher testers an advantage in life.

The Emotional intelligence test is more likely to determine how someone’s life may progress. EQ is our ability to “read” peoples body language and signals. It’s our ability to adapt to certain situations and to help you understand people to work in cooperation with different personalities.

When taking an emotional intelligence test you are being measured in five very specific areas. It’s important to understand what those areas are.

1. Empathy: A number of factors go into measuring empathy. Empathy is the ability to feel what the other person is feeling. If you are an empathetic person you might be a social services counselor, a teacher, a sales rep along with many more.

As parents and or mentors you see the potential that a person has. You don’t see where they are now but what they could become if they so choose. No matter what your religious or political affiliations are, you ability to put yourself in their shoes.

2. Being self aware: Being in touch with your own emotions is a major component of EQ.

You recognize your emotions and how that your current emotions, mood etc can affect other people. You have the ability to calm somebody in a heated argument. You are in tune.

3. Motivation: If you are a motivated person you have the ability to take negative circumstances and thoughts and turn them into positives.  Negatives are viewed as obstacles where an unmotivated person looks at negatives as a permanent road block.

If you test high in motivation chances are you are a visionary. You see what could be and picture it as what currently is. For example entrepreneurs have this ability. They can take a picture of how big their business will be in a few years and they act upon those visions as if they are happening right now.

4. Social Skills: Social skills are your people skills. How do you actually interact with other human beings. People with great social skills have the ability to lead, and interact well with others in a team environment.

You are also very good at leading other people, networking and building personal bonds with others. You could be very charismatic too. People probably like you and enjoy your company and feel like they may be missing out once you part ways.

5. Emotional Self Regulation: The ability to self regulate your emotions requires the ability to control your though process when you may be vulnerable.  You know how you feel when somebody cuts you off in traffic when you are having a great day. You go from the world is a great place. to the emotion of anger and disbelief that people are so rude and only care about themselves.

The ability to alleviate that feeling of anger and hostility comes with your ability to put it into perspective without losing control. This type of self control takes practice and certain techniques but it can be done. If you test high in this area of an EQ test you have the natural ability to do this.

These important areas of the EQ are the areas that more than likely will determine your ultimate lot in life, your relationships and the success you have.